In my last post i wrote that it will hurt him for him to hear of the changes. That people think he wont be able to hear them. I want to clarify something here...
It will hurt him because he can not yet see the changes, and doesnt want them to be there. It will hurt him because he is trying so hard to do this without causing discomfort. He is trying really hard to do this without causing pain for others. He is trying SO DAMN HARD.
Unfortunately, it does cause discomfort and it does cause pain and it does cause changes.
He is not ready because he just cant see anything outside of his own perspective right now. Not because he is a bad person, but as part of this journey, he cant. He just cant.
And the truth is, i still dont know how many of these changes are due to transition and how many due to stress and trauma. But they are linked now. Blended into one.
HE IS NOT A BAD PERSON. But like all people, he only has one persepective. Just as i only have mine.
Perhaps mine is also a little skewed because i am so close to it all. But this is how it affects me.
