A friend who doesnt know of the transitioning, who hasnt seen J for a while, said this to me the other day.
And it hurt me.
Normally when it is said to me, i let people say it, (or if they are close to me i will agree). I dont encourage or discourage people to say anything to him. Their own holding back is their own.
But for the first time i asked them to be really really thoughtful about sharing that. In my head i was screaming "please dont tell him that!!!". It was really strange.
I have WANTED others to tell him because it was backup what i was saying and hopefully open his eyes. But i think that this would be too much.
I wonder why i responded so dramatically on the inside? Perhaps because i know how much this person means? Perhaps because we were in the middle of a good stretch and i didnt want to cop the responsibility for someone saying it to him? perhaps because i knew it would open a can of worms and their relationship may change? I dont know why.
But it is interesting indeed.
